Sometimes being a man feels better...

Being a girl or a lady is mostly associated with being weak.I hate how women are stereotypically weak and fragile, how they can't get as strong as men.

Sometimes I do wish that I were a man. No periods, no symptoms from periods that are painful and heavy like the PMS symptoms due to hormonal imbalances every frikking month and even for lower emphasies on image, men can walk  without shirts in public with their fake 8month pregnancy bellies on show and no one will find it indecent.

Being a woman inherently hurts. Women have been menstruating since Homo sapiens were fully evolved. It wasn't until the 19th century that scientists linked periods to ovulation.

Women bodies are linked with pain-childbirths, PMS, menopause etc. While when in pain, men are more likely to be given sedatives And antidepressants.The health gender Gap is fed by perceptions of women as being over emotional and extending the extend of their pain and suffering.

To understand how the male body became the default human construction, we've to go back to the 15th and 16th century where physicians used to employ graverobbers to excavate cadavers.The corpses they brought back became the basis for the earliest understandings of how we move, bleed, digest food, think and also feel...and as female hormonal fluctuations were considered too deviant to make consistent calculations.They were, ofcourse always make...and maleness became the model by which medications were developed.

You are addressed the way you dress (Campus dressing)

Sometimes people make us feel ashamed of ourselves with what we wear just because our lives didn't turn out the way we expected.I think people should let their fellows wear what they can afford without feeling bad,let people wear what they can afford in peace.Let people be who they are.

I've seen it in campus where comrades brag only for wearing indecently.Decent dressing is not all about wearing as per the function/show ,but who doesn't know that wearing a dress that has provocative or stimulating influence on almost everybody we happen to pass by is indecent? We mostly claim to have "dressed to kill" yet we're exposing our  body to the public which is most common with us ladies.We dress in a manner,all with an aim of looking tantalizing,sexy and attractive instead of dressing in a responsible way since strapless clothes,bum shorts,short blouses and miniskirts is all what we find good for us.

Our dressing is mostly infuenced by many things such as financial status.....coming from a well off family doesn't mean you should just dress the way you want.Being decent is not all about dressing expensive;but wearing something that is comfortable and which makes you feel confident.Nudity is not viewed as per financial status or  social class,it's rather viewed as lack of self assurance and desire to be noticed at all costs.

Other times we let our friends and roommates determine what we should wear.Dressing half-naked in the name of levels and fashions and as they're our friends,they'll also tell us to dress as per the trends and we end up doing so without even minding about protecting our image.Image is everything...we are living in a world where one is judged by their appearance more than anything else.

Most of us also dress to imitate pop/rock stars who are normally half dressed or nude during stage performances or in video shows.The celebrities we idolize will never dress half naked for a press conference or a live talk show the way some of us dress when attending a lecture.

 

Our attire reflects our sense of value and taste,and this is why one may be treated with disdain or embarrassment as some dresses may make people draw conclusions about ourselves.Dressing only to seek attention of everybody who comes our way or dressing indecent just because we are not near our parents or close relatives,as it is well known that indecent dressing is contrary to the acceptable norms and values of the society.

As ladies,we should somehow understand that dressing indecent may bring alot of effects to us.Yes,we might say that we dress as per our choices which entails that there must be consent if at all anyone wants to do anything with our body but this is contrary to some men's conclusions who think that dressing in a certain way means that one is craving for sex or they may even view her as an harlot even if she isn't.

Indecent dressing devalues a woman as it exposes all what deforms their pleasure.

Decency reveals alot about who you are,by dressing modestly,maturity radiates from you,reflects your personality,displays yourself with worth,makes a good first impression and also improves your appearance.

Though these dressing patterns are so many;with more still coming up due to progressiveness of fashion,we should atleast try to be decent and presentable,dressing in a way that we are comfortable and confident with despite whom we interact with...also creating a positive impact on  first impression people have when they meet us.

A wise man once said "life is in phases and men are in sizes", so live your size as per time.....your image creates a certain opinion about you,so project and protect your image. It's really not conforming on the latest trends, just be YOU,be simple,comfortable and confident.

A LAVISH LIFE AT THE EXPENSE OF MORALS

As of the moment, our parents back home are either depressed, suffering from high blood pressure or sitting on a sofa in the living room, regretting why they gave  birth to us. We've hardworkingly killed their past and we are now busy killing their future. 

Their tireless hard-work to produce the best from us has so far been fruitless. Day and night, we are seen chasing their married age mates in the name of love with the adage. "It's better to die in a Subaru in Dubai than in Kenya with a broke man". 

We brace ourselves for the task.Without fear of STDs and pregnancy. We cling to contraceptives such as P2s unaware of the repurcussions . Most of us having no time for the seriously struggling men of our age. What we claim we need is "wazee walio omoka" - the successful old men of our time.

But have we, ladies taken the time to have a meeting with ourselves? Have we taken the time to question our morals ? For instance, how would l feel as a wife when a young girl dates my husband ? How would l feel when l hear my husband died while "in line of duty" with a campus lady? 

On the other end, how will I master the courage to tell my father that I have been fathered by a man old enough to be called my grand father ? Where will I get the strength to tell them I am pregnant in the first place? 

On campus, many of us become senseless and useless. Beautiful without brains. We meet financially stable campus men and get lured and cohabit with them then finally they make us their "wives".

So, we stay in their rooms doing all the house chores instead of attending our lectures. We mess up our academic lives for guys who finish school and leave us behind busy, pretending to  be wife materials. Surely, are we worth this little? 

How many of us, ladies in varsities have been used by lustful boys and dumped ? Then we will carry flags branded "all men are dogs." How many of us have been impregnated by the so called "dead beats" ? How many of us are silently suffering from STDs? 

Why don't we value ourselves and be contented with what our parents tirelessly work to provide for us ? Why don't we adhere to our guardians, clergies, sisters, brothers and parents' pieces of advice? If we think education is worthless, let's keep trying ignorance.

In conclusion, my dear lasses do not follow the crowd. Don't trying to fit in for the more reason of not being branded odd. It's important to understand that it's okay to be different. 

Some of the decisions we make may have a long life consequence. Don't risk your life by selling your dignity for a few thousand shillings. Your worth much more. It's high time we stopped chasing the Subaru boys.

Be catious or otherwise, you'll be forced to forgive someone who wasn't sorry and accept an apology you never received.