WhatsApp,The Medicine For The Heartbroken.

Pain has become our everyday meal but the fact is that we don't tell it out.Life is full of ups and downs. Harrassments, peer pressure and also other factors have left some people feeling isolated, victimised and also insecure.

It is clearly evident that we are a depressed generation hiding behind jokes, weed and also memes while deep inside pain is becoming unbearable. People are silently battling depression and afraid of being judged, misunderstood and avoided.

It's not all about addiction on social media, but many people...moreso youths and to be specific comrades have found it somehow nice to spend most of their times on WhatsApp viewing memes and also flirting with their friends only to hide and avoid their real emotions.

Poor concentration, feelings of excessive gult or self-worth, hopelessness about the future, thoughts about dying or suicide, disrupted sleeps, changes in appetite or weight and feeling especially low is all what occupies most of us. And now memeloading has become the only way to 'assume' these feelings.

At least on WhatsApp one can get companionship of others and that's all what we need to thrive in life. It can also bring a huge impact on our mental health and happiness. Being socially connected to others(friends) can ease stress, anxiety and depression. Also, it can boost self-wealth, provide comfort and joy and also help in avoiding loneliness.

Sometimes it reaches a point where our problems becomes difficult to tell. Some of us are socialized to internalize feelings rather than giving a voice to them. Other feelings like how you think you're perceived can feel so overwhelming that you can't even get the motivation to talk them out.

 Emotions are little harder to fix, not like a car that has just broken down. There is no Wrench you can even grab, or repair shop you can take your feelings to. It's your duty to learn on how to handle your episodes of depression and feelings of heartbreak.

The only thing which can be done is talking about the feelings. But, to whom are you gonna share your feelings with? People are busy out here and concerned with their  own issues, not even one of your friends can genuinely listen to your story.

It is true that talking about the issue has also psychological benefits that might not be obvious. But since it doesn't work at all, we therefore declare Whatsapp as the home of all solutions. 

ECHOES OF A BROKEN HEART

"I knew I was making the worst mistake ever by following my heart all over again. I thought he was different from others and so I had to follow my heart. 

....Trully he had managed to spark the stars in my heart but my brain convinced me otherwise. I knew I was gonna get hurt but I chose to blindly follow my heart which later betrayed me. Then came home clutching the pieces of my broken heart.  My brain couldn't cease mocking me...

...Now I stare at the sky thinking of nothing. I can't help but regret everything I ever did. I can't help but cry my eyes out, i can't grief and mourn for my destroyed heart. I know that i'mma be okay but my heart is aching badly,"  Says a broken heart. 

Episodes of sobbing, rage and despair is all what a heartbroken person feels. They may not eat or sleep for some days. At times they may even neglect their personal hygiene. 

Afew may repress their feelings so that they do not have to face the pain of the loss. But this may end up causing panic, anxiety and also depression.

Lots of things can cause heartbreak. Some may have  had a romantic relationship that ended before they were ready. Other times we may have  strong feelings for someone who doesn't feel the same way. Also, when a close friend ends a friendship may leave us feeling sad or angry. 

It all comes out of love.

Love; the unwavering, unbreakable and unparalled fondness and devotion to someone, as the poets and novelists describe.

    But according to me, love is all about give and take. Completely opening up and sharing your feelings and life with your partner daily, is what constitutes a healthy relationship.

A relationship is composed of friendship, sexual attraction, interllectual compatibility and ofcourse love. Love is the glue that keeps a relationship strong and solid.

Reflecting on the happiest memories of our time together, accompanied by obsessive thoughts about the issues that might have led to the breakup is what hurts the most. 

Questioning ourselves as we explore every possibility of bringing the beloved back.  really sucks. Feeling rejected, inadequate, unworthy, disposable, undesirable and also unwanted.

Symptoms of love withdrawal lies at the bedrock of a broken heart. A longing for the beloved to return.  A yearning for the person who we now fear was "the one" all along and more worringly, the "only one".

     Experiencing anxiousnes, intrusiveness and repetitive thoughts of the beloved. Who has triggered this painful affliction to our body and soul. And the bottom of it all is confusion and disbelief. 

There has never been a sure way to avoid a heartbreak. Not unless you're an unfeeling robot. But there is way to go through it. Though at the moment you might feel that you'll never be happy again.

Allowing yourself to feel your feelings is one of the best to do but be free to release them. Acknowledge that breakup is like any other type of loss. And with loss,comes denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance.

All in all, don't become your feelings. It's  important to express them.  To stop short of becoming them; cry, scream and yell them out. Do whatever you need to do to let your emotions flow freely. But once you're done, stop and move on to something else.